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As a single parent, you stay constantly busy trying to meet the demands of parenting and providing for your family. Often, your nerves are rather frayed even on a good day. Then, your child starts whining, and there went your last nerve. You can teach your child proper communication skills and to stop whining. To begin, take notice of the times that your child shows the behavior. Possibly he or she takes this tone of voice when you are distracted with other matters to get your attention. Hungriness or tiredness could trigger the behavior. Or, your child may get whiney when not getting his or her way. Force yourself to take a deep breath when you hear whining. Keep your cool as you request that the child should address you in a normal voice or tell him or her that you can't hear when that tone of voice is used. Getting upset may only serve to encourage your child to whine in order to watch your reaction. If your child continues to use an unacceptable tone of voice, set a limit such as choose between an apple or an orange, but there will be no candy bar. You must keep whatever limit that you place. Once you have stated that your child may not have or do something, do not change your mind no matter how upset your kid gets. Sometimes, you may have to resort to leaving a public area with your child in tow or leaving the room if you are at home until the child is in control of his or her behavior. Although this may inconvenience you, in the long run, he or she will learn that you stick to your word and no amount of tantruming or whining will change your mind. Another tactic is to avoid situations that spark the behavior. If you know your child gets whiney when sleepy, don't try to fit in one last errand before taking your child home. Know your child's limits and respect them even when it's inconvenient for you. When an older child whines for something, encourage him or her to come up with ways to fix the problem. If you immediately start trying to provide solutions, your child will continue with the behavior to keep you engaged and thinking for him instead of doing the work himself. Whining can sometimes be a coping mechanism when a child's life feels out of control. Your recent divorce or bullying issues at school could be at fault. If this is the case, be sure to spend lots of time individually with the child to help make him or her feel secure. Counseling may also be helpful if the issue doesn't seem to be resolving. Getting assistance from others who spend time with your child such as the other parent, a grandparent, or a child care provider, is important, too. Explain your plan of attack to them, and ask that they also not give in to the behavior. This will help to provide consistency for your children which can be very effective in eradicating behaviors. By using the above measures, you should be able to stop the whining and save your sanity.
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